How to Raise an Adult


What really matters when it comes to helping a child become a competent, confident and caring adult?

During 10 years as Dean of Freshmen at Stanford University, author Julie Lythcott-Haims took notice of the escalating number of high-achieving students who lacked the self-reliant skills needed to become competent adults.

In her acclaimed book “How to Raise an Adult,” she turns to research and draws from her experience with Stanford students to explain how parents can help rather than hinder their children’s ability to acquire the skills needed for independent, successful living.

Bainbridge parents and educators will have an opportunity to hear author Julie Lythcott-Haims’ observations and recommendations in person by joining her and Raising Resilience at BHS Commons on Wednesday, February 3, 7:30 – 9 p.m. for the upcoming presentation.

Families with children of all ages will benefit from  her message. It is never too early to help children build the skills needed to become thriving adults.


Learn more by clicking here.



Getting to Calm While Parenting Young Children?

getting to calmWe’re excited to welcome Dr. Laura Kastner back to Bainbridge Island on October 20, 2015, at 7:30 p.m. This event is for caregivers, parents, and educators of young children (ages 2 to 7), as well as any other adults interested in the topic.

Dr. Laura Kastner will share from her newest book, Getting to Calm: The Early Years, which includes evidence-based strategies that help parents learn why and how to raise resilient children by utilizing positive discipline, while also promoting the tenets of mindful parenting.

Learn more, and register, here.

Be a part of the change you wish to see

BHYA_logo (2)This brutal post from a junior high school student in Palo Alto is heartbreaking, and speaks to a lot of what we hear from Bainbridge High School students about stress and pressure.

Let’s do better for our youth on Bainbridge Island. Want to be a part of the change you want to see? Please join us for the fourth Bainbridge Healthy Youth Summit on April 25, 2015.

Standardized Testing

testIt’s testing time! Well, it almost always is, isn’t it? Locally, we have some changes in store for our students. Kids in grades 3 through 8, plus grade 11, will be participating in Smarter Balanced Testing this Spring. Parents have many opportunities to learn more about it, both online and in-person at information sessions this spring, from Bainbridge Island School District’s new Director of Assessment, Dr. Jeff McCormick. Click here for more information.

Opinions very widely on the usefulness of testing, and how the results should impact staffing, funding, and curriculum. But in this opinion piece in The Boston Globe, Williams College psychologist Dr. Susan Engle points out that “…almost no one has publicly questioned a fundamental assumption — that the tests measure something meaningful or predict something significant beyond themselves.” She suggests seven things that really should be tested, including Reading, Flexible Thinking, and Collaboration.

What do you think of this list? What else should be added?

Image: David Hernandez


Developing Self-Discipline in Tweens

PRITM Logo (1)Registration is now open for our next Parenting Right in the Middle event on February 24, 2015. Tools for the Tough Stuff: Limits, Boundaries and Expectations will be about setting limits and boundaries.

When it comes to enforcing those limits, questions pop up about punishment, consequences, and control. Are there more effective ways to think about this? This article by Dr. Laura Markam asks us to consider more positive, learner-growth mindset alternatives that nurture self-discipline in our kids.
This post is part of our Tools for Intentional Parenting (TIPs), a part of the Parenting Right in the Middle program. Throughout this school year, we will share articles, videos and Q&A with experts via email and this blog. If you would like to receive these TIPs via email, please sign up.

Parenting Manifesto


Register by Monday (January 12) for the next Parenting Right in the Middle event, for parents of kids in grades 5 through 8.

The New Year has arrived! With a new year comes a chance for a fresh perspective. What better time to reflect on what is truly important to your family. Here is a perspective worth considering, from researcher Dr. Brene Brown. Also check out this free and colorful download that you can put in your home. Enjoy!

This blog post is part of our Parenting Right in the Middle program, which includes email messages called TIPs (Tools for Intentional Parenting) for parents of tweens (grades 5 through 8). Sign up here if you’d like to receive these TIPs via email.

Image courtesy of Dr. Brene Brown.

Soon-to-be Parents: Check out PEPS!

small samPEPS, or Program for Early Parent Support, is back on Bainbridge! Beginning February 2015, parents of newborns younger than 4 months are invited to take part in a 12-week series of facilitated discussion and connection with a small group of other families.

A PEPS group is a marvelous way to reduce isolation and create a “village” as you begin your parenting journey.

Check out their website or email for more information.

Join us on December 3 for Warm-hearted/Cool-headed Parenting

We’re very excitedPRITM Logo (1) to announce that we’ve partnered with Hyla Middle School and the Bainbridge Island School District to bring you Parenting Right in the Middle, a series of supportive events for parents of kids in grades 5 through 8. This series of events is made possible by a grant from the Bainbridge Community Foundation.

Our first event is Warmhearted-Coolheaded Parenting Tools for Parenting Tweens (grades 5 through 8) on December 3, 7 p.m. in the Bainbridge High School Library.

Click the links above to learn more about the project and this event. And invite your friends and colleagues!

Even if you can’t make the event, we’ll be sending out TIPs (Tools for Intentional Parenting) geared toward parents of tweens. Please sign up for these helpful emails, and we’ll be in touch!

Resource Guide for Bainbridge Island Teens and Tweens

resourceguideNew and exciting! Thanks to the Bainbridge Healthy Youth Initiative, Rotary Club of Bainbridge Island, and the Bainbridge Public Library for putting together this Resource Guide for Bainbridge Island Teens & Tweens.

Check it out and share with your teens and tweens!

The Internal Compass and Middle School Girls

compassOur first Bainbridge Healthy Youth Summit — where Marilyn Price-Mitchell, PhD spoke about her concept of an Internal Compass — inspired a mom working with a group of girls on Bainbridge. She invited Marilyn to visit the group, and Marilyn reflected on that visit on her blog.

Read her post here, and learn more about Marilyn and the Internal Compass here.

We hear frequently how deeply Marilyn’s talk resonated with the parents and educators in the room that day. What has inspired you? Have you ever learned something new at a Raising Resilience event and then put it into practice?

Image from Marilyn Price-Mitchell’s Roots of Resilience website.