How to Raise an Adult


What really matters when it comes to helping a child become a competent, confident and caring adult?

During 10 years as Dean of Freshmen at Stanford University, author Julie Lythcott-Haims took notice of the escalating number of high-achieving students who lacked the self-reliant skills needed to become competent adults.

In her acclaimed book “How to Raise an Adult,” she turns to research and draws from her experience with Stanford students to explain how parents can help rather than hinder their children’s ability to acquire the skills needed for independent, successful living.

Bainbridge parents and educators will have an opportunity to hear author Julie Lythcott-Haims’ observations and recommendations in person by joining her and Raising Resilience at BHS Commons on Wednesday, February 3, 7:30 – 9 p.m. for the upcoming presentation.

Families with children of all ages will benefit from  her message. It is never too early to help children build the skills needed to become thriving adults.


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Ways to Raise Entitled Kids

We talk a lot about what builds resilience and independence in children.  Sometimes our best intentions to parent well can backfire. Reading these tongue-in-cheek “tips” made us cringe as we saw our own behaviors Entitled boybrought to light.

What tips do you truly have to help kids be independent without cultivating materialism and anxiety? 

The Why’s Behind Drug Abuse

motherlode-addict-tmagArticleThis is a thought-provoking piece from the New York Times parenting blog on teens and alcohol/drug addiction. “[Teens] don’t use drugs out of a desire to get high, but rather to cope with the stress and anxiety in their lives. Therefore, if we want to keep teenagers from using drugs, we have to help them manage that stress.”

Lots of parents (and other adults) on Bainbridge have been talking about teens and alcohol lately. We look forward to the results of the Healthy Youth Survey, which might lead to some fruitful discussions about keeping our kids safe.

But in the meantime, what can we do about the stress and anxiety — also prevalent on Bainbridge — that may lead to these risky behaviors?

Photo Shaul Swartz, New York Times

Depression Among High School Seniors and College Freshmen

06freshmen-social-superJumboThe New York Times reported on a study this week about the incidence of depression among college freshmen. Short version: there’s more of it. More college freshmen report that they have felt depressed in the past year, and even more report having felt overwhelmed.

The results also indicated that high school seniors are spending more time on academics than on social activities. In some contexts, this shift might be lauded. But the co-author of the study, Kevin Eagan, is quoted in the Times saying, “Students may be getting the message that they have to take the last year of high school more seriously to get into college, so they’re coming in with greater levels of anxiety.”

But he also indicated this may be changing: “There may need to be a balance that students need to have at some point, and helping students achieve that balance will be more of a concern on colleges and universities.”

How are Bainbridge High seniors dealing with stress, anxiety, and feeling overwhelmed? What do you wish you could tell them about how to find balance?

Photo above: Joe Buglewicz for The New York Times.